A COMPASSIONATE HOLIDAY KIT
The gathering is coming either way.
Seven modules, in the order you actually live them. Whether you go. What to ask your kid first. The letter you send your family a week before. What to say in the three seconds after somebody says something at the table. And the three lines that repair things afterward.
Instant lifetime access · 7 bite-sized modules · 100% confidential
THE HOLIDAY TABLE MOMENT
Three seconds.
You’re at a table with people you love. Somebody says something about your kid. The room goes quiet, everyone looks at their plate, and you have about three seconds to decide what to do.
Plus the questions before you even get to the table. Do we even go this year? What do I say if my mother uses the wrong name? What if my cousin says being gay is a choice? How do I ask my brother not to start anything, without starting something? Who do I sit my kid next to? What do I do when I’m hosting and want to create a fun holiday for my kid while handling my parents and cooking for 12?
Perhaps you’ve been running some version of that list in your head already. Perhaps you’ve been avoiding it. And perhaps the last family get-together was hard enough that you’ve been dreading this one since that one ended.
“I built this because it doesn’t exist, because parents keep asking, and because I would have loved it when Connor came out.”
- Heather, Founder of I Love My Gay Kid
COURSE ROADMAP
Seven modules, in the order you live them.
The holidays don't happen in abstract theory. They unfold in three distinct, predictable phases: the nervous anticipation before leaving the driveway, the high-stakes dining table conversations, and the emotional exhaustion afterwards.
Each module equips you with exact boundary-setting scripts, text message templates, and discreet intervention cues so you always know what to say — and when to leave.
PHASE 1: BEFORE • 4 MODULES
Preparation & Groundwork
Module 1: The Holiday Pressure Cooker
Mapping out potential landmines, family dynamics, and identifying your baseline priorities.
Module 2: Boundary Setting with Extended Relatives
Proactive communication rules for hosts, grandparents, and opinionated family members.
Module 3: Pre-Trip Text & Email Templates
Word-for-word copy-paste messages that establish names, pronouns, and house ground rules before arrival.
Module 4: Preparing Your Kid Without Projecting Fear
How to build confidence, establish secret code words, and agree on exit strategies together.
PHASE 2: DURING • 2 MODULES
Real-Time Interventions
Module 5: Deflecting Microaggressions at the Table
Calm, effective 3-second pivot lines for passive comments, inappropriate questions, and invasive 'curiosity.'
Module 6: Managing Group Dinners & Early Exits
Graceful excuses, private check-in rhythms, and executing an immediate departure without escalating drama.
PHASE 3: AFTER • 1 MODULE
Debrief & Bond Repair
Module 7: The Car Ride Home & Long-Term Baselines
Processing the trip with your kid, reinforcing that you had their back, and deciding boundary changes for next year.
Self-paced audio & video lessons • Printable phrase cards • Lifetime updates
TRANSPARENT VALUE & COMPLETE PEACE OF MIND
What $67 includes
Immediate, lifetime access to practical guidance designed to protect your child's dignity and preserve your relationship before you ever arrive at the family gathering.
- Complete 7-module audio and transcript curriculum for self-paced listening
- Printable Holiday Strategy Guide and Boundary Setting Action Worksheets
- Word-for-word scripts for navigating invasive dinner table inquiries and comments
- Private audio de-escalation companion for instant grounding in difficult moments
- Lifetime access to all future annual holiday updates and reference materials
$67 one-time payment. Nothing renews.
Instant digital delivery • Private & secure checkout • 14-day reassurance guarantee
INCLUDED BONUS VALUE ($94 VALUE)
Two Months of Parent Support Membership
You do not have to carry the emotional weight of this season alone. As part of your registration, you receive 60 days of compassionate live support from Heather and our private parent cohort throughout the entire holiday period.
- Weekly live, compassionate parent circles held via private Zoom
- Direct Q&A with Heather Hester to troubleshoot real-time family dynamics
- A private, safe parent discussion space free from judgment or unsolicited opinions
Zero hidden commitments: This 60-day bonus is completely free with your $67 purchase. It automatically ceases after 60 days unless you deliberately choose to remain. No credit card surprises.
HEATHER HESTER
Parenting coach • Author of Parenting with Pride • Host of More Human. More Kind.
Compassionate Guidance & Proven Advocacy
Hi, I'm Heather.
I’m a parenting coach, the author of Parenting with Pride, and the host of More Human. More Kind., which has won the Women in Podcasting Award for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast three years running and sits in the top 1.5% of podcasts globally.
I’m also a parent of four kids, two of whom are part of the LGBTQ+ community.
I talk to parents about how to show up for themselves and their families with love and confidence, and how to fix things when we get it wrong. Some situations hit differently when you’re watching your kid grow up in a world that doesn’t always support them, or even believe they have the right to be who they are.
I have spent a good part of my adult life unlearning things I was raised to believe. I don’t offer tidy answers. I offer real ones.
“…at every step in her presentation and dialogue with our parents and guardians, Heather’s authenticity shone through, immediately making her feel trusting and trustworthy…”
Kane Osburn — Superintendent, Avoca School District
“I am very happy to know that Heather is available to serve as a resource for parents of LGBTQ+ kids, and really to any parents at all. Everyone talks about being ‘inclusive’, but Heather lives it.”
Adam Simon — Executive Director, Odyssey Teen Camp
A GENTLE PERMISSION
Take what you need and leave the rest.
Read one module. Read one lesson. Send one text and close it again. There is no wrong way to use this kit.
Built for a phone... possibly in a bathroom at your sister's house.
CLARITY BEFORE YOU BEGIN
Questions
Everything you need to navigate family gatherings with calm confidence. Take what serves your situation, skip what doesn't, and return whenever you need grounded reassurance.
Need assistance or have a specific question about your family's setup? We're here to help you feel supported every step of the way.
Do I have to read it all before Thanksgiving?
Every module opens with what to do if you only have two minutes. Start there and come back for the rest whenever you want it.
What if my gathering is something other than Thanksgiving or Christmas?
Thanksgiving and Christmas are shorthand here for whatever your gathering actually is. A birthday, a wedding, a funeral, a Sunday dinner. Same three seconds.
Is this for parents of trans kids or gay kids?
Both. Some of it is about names and pronouns, some of it is about the uncle who has opinions about who your kid loves, and most of it is about what you say when somebody gets it wrong.
What happens on the calls?
Someone brings a situation, and we work on it. In November and December, that is mostly the gathering coming up or the one that just happened.